Expert Advice for Nashville Grooms: How Grooms Can Help with Wed Planning
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
At The Smart Bride workshop, there were sooo many grooms. In fact, a wedding vendor mentioned that she'd never see nso many grooms at a bridal event. In fact, many of the questions were from grooms! Yay! We're proud of you Nashville me!
That got us thinking, we need to do more blog posts for the guys, since now we know you are helping plan too:). We started a few weeks ago with our tuxedo shopping blog post. But, we decided to take our commitment to serving grooms one step further. We headed to the authority on all things groom related: Jeff Trinci, who runs the website The Grooms List. The site is a great source of checklists, ideas, advice all from Jeff who speaks from his own experience and his observations of how ou can be the best groom and, more importantly, a kick-butt husband. {Brides - please please please click share to send this blog post to your groom.}
Founder of The Groom's List
As asked by Josh at The Smart Bride camp "What can a groom to do help during the wedding planning? I know my fiancee is going through a lot and wants everything done a certain way but how can I help with the planning?"
For brides that are leading the charge with planning and who want things a certain way like you’re describing, there are lots of areas you can work together and lend your thoughts but there are certain areas you can jump in and manage...
1) Honeymoon - The honeymoon has been a traditional type of thing the groom can handle but two new traditions are in the making.
2) Guest list - managing your guest list, and merging with hers.
3) Be the CFO – manage finances
4) Gifts and groomsmen items - choose the groomsmen’s gifts, the tuxes but be sure to match the wedding colors. Even picking out your own ring helps, coming up with places to register for things and writing your own vows.
5) You could write a wedding speech – it doesn’t need to be too long but it’s important to do that and to especially offer a special toast to your bride, I think that’s an amazing thing to do.
6) Reception touches - making a slide show it’s a great way to express yourselves, pick a song for mother-son dance, a song for the garter toss
7) Easy but important details - Create a wedding website, take the lead on getting the marriage license
8) Make the first night romantic - one thing that doesn’t get much thought is making arrangements for the first night’s accommodations and making sure it has a special, romantic touch. Taking the time to find a right place, maybe some candles, a bottle of wine, music. Lots more on the site.
The Grooms List gives you a handy checklist so you can stay on top of your planning
What are wedding planning tasks that grooms can easily take off their fiancee's plate? Most common tasks for grooms?
A lot of my answer to the first question overlaps into this one but Another way is to manage the vendor research - the CRO if you will – the different vendors who need to be hired, the groom can divide the ones up between her tastes and his tastes. Maybe he's more interested in the DJ, the Band or whatever kind of music they want to have or the rentals and chairs depending on the venue, maybe even the officiant they're going to choose or the caterer. He could search out places for dance lessons for their first dance, the kind of transportation they want to have, whether to hire a videographer and maybe even picking the venue.
Guys can go out there, research and find the information and bring to the bride. They can go through it together and can spend that time gathering, not necessarily to make a deicision but just taking the time to help the bride research and gather information.
Stay tuned. We'll share more great tips for grooms on Thursday!
UPDATE: Here's a great contest for grooms. Click here to enter your bride and get a fabulous Valentine's Day makeover for your bride-to-be.
About the Author:
Tabitha
Blogging is something I’ve enjoyed doing for years. My interests lie mostly in lifestyle related topics like fashion, style, design, food and weddings. When I heard Ashley was looking to bring on new members to the ABG team, I jumped at the opportunity - I can’t think of a better way to stay involved in weddings than to write about them and to stay in touch with the trends and new ideas. Lucky for me, Ashley likes my blog and trusts my experience to bring me on and so far, it’s been a blast.
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Posted on February 2, 2011 |
Filed under: Advice & Planning, Grooms, Groomsmen & Tuxedos
