Expert Advice for Nashville Grooms: Groom’s Roast + Groomsmen Gifts
Thursday, February 3, 2011
We're back with more groom advice from Jeff Trinci, who runs the website The Grooms List. (If you missed yesterday's advice for grooms, start there.)
What are the best gifts that grooms can give their groomsmen, ushers?
Top 3 will probably be a digital picture frame preloaded with some meaningful pictures with the best man from the past or the bachelor party, making it specific to each person he’s giving it to. For the ushers it could be a picture frame that’s meaningful for them.
With guys, it’s about bonding so he could get tickets to an event they all enjoy and take them all out to that event and pay everybody’s way and keep the memories going. For my wedding, we wore suits so I paid for the suits, ties, suspenders and belts for the best man and each of the groomsmen. Places like Men’s Warehouse could give you a discount.
Jeff and his groomsmen in the suits he gifted them.
What's hot for grooms these days? What's exciting them?
I have two trends and one prediction. Trend #1 – Creating a Groom’s Best Beverage bar menu. Lots of guys are doing a whiskey bar or signature drink but this is a little more than that, creating a personal menu of the different kinds of drinks they like it could be alcoholic, non alcoholic or a combination of both and have fun with it. You could even have colored ice to match the wedding colors.
Trend #2 – Gift registry: guys traditionally don’t care about it but lately they’re really getting into registering for things they like, even honeymoon registries.
The Grooms List has great ideas for activities for the groom and his guys.
Prediction: Women have bridal showers and bachelorette parties but guys don’t have the equivalent of a bridal shower. I call this a Groom Roast – obviously the groom is the person being roasted/ honored put on by the groomsmen since the best man does the bachelor party. It’s a time where you can have grandparents, dads, people who wouldn’t necessarily be at the bachelor party and have guy time and enjoy that time together. It could be sports themed, video games, backyard barbeque and have the guy register from places they like e.g. Best Buy. And of course, you’ll do a roast and have people plan their roasts.
Learn more about the Groom Roast here.
What are the three most important things a groom should never forget when it comes to wedding planning?
#1 – Share your opinion and participate. It’s just as much his day as it is hers so it’s important to have you represented on that day. When you partici[ate you get to learn more about each other too. Even if you have limited interest in it, the experience you go through when you plan the wedding together
#2 – Pick the right best man and groomsmen. Really make sure your best man is up for doig it and is the right person for the job. You want someone you can rely on from beginning to end because there’s a lot for him to do. Same for your groomsmen. I had a tough time and there were guys I liked and I was in their wedding, but I wasn’t very cose to them so don’t be afraid to hurt friend’s feelings, you want people who, when you look at pictures years from now, you want to make sure they’re the people you want to see. If you go into it knowing you’re not that close or it just isn’t the same anymore, think twice.
#3 – Make your bride feel special. Take pride in how you look, what you say in your vows, the personal toast, the first night, even the honeymoon – schedule some pampering activities when you get there. Put the focus there, don’t wait till the last minute and think about what your new wife will enjoy.
If you could go back in time to talk to your former engaged self, what advice would you give him?
This is the hardest question for me. I think back to that day and I think the Lord blessed us so much. Everything was so great. What I could come up with was to enjoy everything to the fullest. Don’t think of everything as things you have to do but things you get to do. You don’t have to have a wife, you get to. Work as a team.
Jeff and his wife
We couldn't agree more! Thank you so much for chatting with me Jeff, it was such an enjoyable, eye-opening conversation. I truly think brides and grooms can and will benefit from The Groom's List as a resource for wedding planning. Everything a man may have questions about from before the proposal till after the wedding, it's all there. Give it a visit, let us know what you think!
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Blogging is something I’ve enjoyed doing for years. My interests lie mostly in lifestyle related topics like fashion, style, design, food and weddings. When I heard Ashley was looking to bring on new members to the ABG team, I jumped at the opportunity - I can’t think of a better way to stay involved in weddings than to write about them and to stay in touch with the trends and new ideas. Lucky for me, Ashley likes my blog and trusts my experience to bring me on and so far, it’s been a blast.
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